Yes I have the control to change myself.

Why do I feel like I can not change myself?

Those are voices that are telling you that, and that has nothing to do with reality. The reality over here is that every person has the ability to do what ever they want to do.

Before I start telling you how I can change myself and so can you can change yourself, we have to come to terms with those negative voices inside of ourselves and they will never leave, the only thing we can do with those voices is learn how to channel them and turn into positive reinforcement for our growth. The voices come from what ever happened to you in some earlier stage in life, it can be during your childhood or even during your adult life, usually people are suffering from their childhood. First thing we are going to do is take control of our own life. That means for now on anything that goes wrong we can’t blame anyone but ourselves. Don’t be so hard on yourself you have to inter grade slowly into this new responsibility, it will not happen over night we are only human but we have to start somewhere, we are starting right now with the first step to ultimately feel the control within ourselves to change the way we want to change and not let those negative voices control and ruin our dreams of what we really want from  life.

Once we learn how to take responsibility of our actions we will slowly start to realize we really do have control because it is our life and we are supposed to be in the driver seat in our life, till now we let some one else sit in our very own driver seat and let them control our life, so every time some thing happens we just blame the other person and not ourselves. Now that we are taking responsibility for ourselves the only person we can blame is our very own self.

Do you have something that you really want to do but you feel like you do not have the control to do it?  Pick what ever you want to change and make some small goals that are reasonable to get to, once you have accomplished your first goal now make a another goal a drop bigger than the first with the ultimate goal of getting the the thing that you want to change within yourself that you feel you have no control to change. It is like a ladder if you want to get on top of the roof all you need to do is get on the ladder and go step by step and every step will get you there closer and closer until eventually you will be on top of the roof. If you are going to be standing next to the building with a ladder coming down and say to yourself I will never be able to go on top over the roof so than for sure you will not be able to get on top of the roof because you are to busy convincing yourself that you can’t do it, meanwhile all you really need to do is step foot by foot on the ladder and than you will be on the roof before you even realized. Just believe that you can change and start the small steps.