After a person is aware, approved, and accepted that they are a silent orphan. Now comes the real work till now it was very painful to tap into the reality of what is going on. Now it is time to take it into a new level and self parent oneself. for whatever reason it was that the way your parents treated you as a child was not good and now you are suffering from it in your adult life. It is now time for you to take your own life in your ow hands.

whatever age you are it is not too late to self parent yourself because you are still a child inside even though on the outside you physically look like an adult. Self parenting can be very challenging because your whole childhood you have been suffering, and all you know is suffering and pain. you don’t know what it means to be truly happy inside; you don’t know what it means to be in a wholeness with yourself, you don’t know how to accept yourself for who your are.

The first step in self-parenting is taking yourself back into your childhood memories and explore all the different sensations you had inside. When doing this exercise it can be very painful just accept the pain and don’t escape the pain. When you are deep into a childhood memory and you start feeling guilty about something in your childhood. ask yourself why am I feeling guilty about that memory? dig deep into the core issue of why you feel guilty, once you get to the core reason you have to heal yourself and be your own parent. it doesn’t make a difference how you were treated in the past now is what counts. the past is history, the present is right now and the future is based on the history that you make right now. at this point you have to treat yourself in the healthy way that a child is supposed to be treated in the situation that you are in.

After so many years of suffering in silence, it is not going to change overnight. at the point where you are holding you have two choices. First choice you can self parent yourself and take responsibility for your own life for yourself and not blame anyone, this is the harder route but in the long term picture you will be happier and healthier. The second choice you have you can escape reality and just blame the word for all your problems. This might be the easier route for right now but in the long term picture you are the on that is going to suffer. Deep inside and you will be battling a lot of your unmet childhood needs that healthy humans need to live a happy, healthy life.

What is stopping you from treating yourself the same way you were treated as child? the only way that you will treat yourself differently is if you explore and learn what it means healthy relationships, healthy ways parents are supposed to treat their children, how do connect to humans in a healthy way. It’s not all about you anymore it is about connecting with other humans. your parents didn’t have the capability of connecting to you as a child because they were too self-absorbed in their own pain that they never worked out. You don’t want the same thing to happen to you when you self parent yourself plus when you have your own kids one day, you don’t want your kids to feel the same way. if you want to have a happy and bright future your best bet is to go with the first option, work on yourself and self parent your own self.

I am going to be writing a lot about self-parenting in the next couple of weeks. for now just think about the concept of recreating your childhood memories into good positive ones.