You can call them the triple AAA if you want.

When something traumatic happens to us that is not in our control. We can get very overwhelmed very fast and get a lot of sensation in our body and end up doing something very rational just to escape the pain that we are in. Because the pain is to hard to handle. The problem with doing something rational is that usually we regret that we did it once we calm down and actually realize that what happened was not our fault and we are not bad because of it. It was totally not in our control so we are not responsible for what happened, but we are responsible for how we handle it.

The first step when something traumatic happens to us is to become Aware of what is happening and to really think into what’s going on that we can be aware of not just the way we look at it through our own eyes but be aware of it through a more open minded view. Be aware of the whole picture not just our own personal bubble. The more you become aware you will realize that it was not in your control what happened.

Now that we are Aware that the traumatic experience was not in our control and it happened anyways, so we now have to Accept the reality that something happened not in our control and we are not at fault. This sounds very easy for me to say when someone is going through a really hard time but the reality is that it wasn’t in their control.

Now that we are Aware of what happened and Accept that it wasn’t in our control in the first place. We have to take another step further. We have to Approve ourselves of our situation and be able to pick ourselves up and move forward with our life. Hopefully through the awareness process we will really work hard on ourselves not to recreate what was done to us to others. The reality is that since that was the way we were treated that is all we know because that is all we saw. The real work starts after to Approve yourself of what ever happened and you are already aware that if you don’t change you end up treating others exactly the way you were treated and than it will be your fault because you had the chance to change.