This is the big question that every asks but the truth is there is no answer because the damage that the trama did will never leave you. Don’t give up so fast there is still hope.

The answer is how do you deal with trauma?

If something traumatic happened in your life the memory will never really go away the only thing you can do is change the the negative experience of the trauma into a positive experience to help you move forward in your life and not let your self be stuck in self pity and shame  and be responsible for your own actions i find a lot of people that were abused have this unspoken feeling that it is not in there control and than everything in life that cant succeed because they deep down don’t really exist and since they don’t exist they cant really do anything and they always need to really on others and than when something does not work all they need to do is blame the person that made the decision for them